Quantifying Abuse - Video Series
Structure and Contents
In attempt to making this initiative a little more organized, the video series related to the report will be documented below.
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Each video is basically a speech that I have written. I am not confident enough to go in without notes yet. So for those who love a good read, I have copied my notes below. They have been barely edited so please be kind. I am trying to get out a post a day. I'm tired and ready to be done with this part.
Overview and Introduction
How we got here
Overview and Introduction
5 Steps to Save the World
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Just because you ignore it…….
The separation of the family and criminal courts means that abusers are allowed to utilize the court system and the children to continue to abuse previous partners after they leave the relationship. This is a sexless practice; it happens on both sides.
This is allowed to occur because the family court is not equipped to determine whether there is an aggressive party, and whether or not they are using the system to maintain control. The system is built to basically make the parties go off into their separate corners and hopes to hell it doesn’t happen again. One person gets free while the children are now forced to fend for themselves with someone that is actively trying to hurt the other party. Impossible choices
And I understand why the system works like this. There are some very good manipulators within this system and with low exposure to the story the situation basically looks like 2 people pointing fingers across a table. One person is actually terrified and probably not making sense because they have been tortured, and the other is a expert manipulator.
Knowing this I really sit back and ponder about how people may have had their kids ripped away from them so that go into the hands of people that didn’t even want them. How many.
This needs to be stopped and it needs to be stopped right now. I have no more patience. 0.
These people need to be identified within this system not, so they get thrown away, or even in some circumstances to get their kids taken away permanently. They need help. They’re broken too. They have never been taught how to process their rage by themselves and they need help. They’re a risk to society.
Just helping the victim is basically telling abusers that what they are doing is OK.
If you’re intuitive like me you know that there is far too many right now to do that. Far to many to just walk away and pretend we don’t care. Far. Too. Many.
We must live in balance. We must live together. We must find a way
Consistencies in abuse, measurable in data.
So what we need is a consistent way to measure/determine aggressive parties. We need a consistent way to measure abuse. In manipulation land of no truth lives here. And here comes ….. wait for it.
Data. I know I’m getting better with sound effects.
Like Harassment once a line is set, malicious parties will operate within it. If we say victims get assistance at 7 threats to 1, Not ridiculous. They will operate within it and guaranteed that situations won’t escalate to the point that they do.
But this isn’t the magic part. If you have been in a relationship with someone like this. You know that the connection in between their brain and their mouth doesn’t have a stop in it. In making them think about, say, how many times they can throw down a threat. They will need to start thinking about what they say. Its basically like a forced consciousness upgrade. Your welcome.
Controlling people like controlling positions
Now, I know first hand how much some people enjoy hurting other people. I honestly thought that most people were good like me. That’s projection. There are many people that are not going to like this very much.
A lot of controlling people wont like this very much.
Controlling people like controlling positions and I know just how many ofyou sit at the top of the house.
So were just gonna go around you. You know, manipulate the system in the right way.
5 steps to save the world
Now – this will work in any system that is precedent setting.
Literally anyone with a case in the system can do this.
You can do this from the ground up; you do not need permission. The system is literally set up to support, and I’m honestly amazed no one has done it yet.
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Pick a metric, any metric
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Utilize CONSISTENT metrics within your court documents
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Get a Judgement
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Post Judgement – Consistent Metrics and Range
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Standardization & Decommission of Judicial Processes
Overview and Introduction
The Dataset and the power of Data
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What did you do Ashley…….?
I’m not really great at being gloaty. and honestly this has had a massive impact on my capabilities to move forward in this world. Seems like you have to scream about how great you are or just no one ever knows. Seems like a society where you would get a society of screamers.
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I know I’m going to hit the environment a little different but that’s on purpose. People like me in society atypically don’t win. Actually I think by this age there aren’t many around at all; and if they are here, their confidence has been so whipped they usually need help to stand them up. When you look at it structurally, it looks like people bred to be specifically weak so they can feed others emotional needs. Both ways. Its insidious.
Anyways, I’m not gloaty – but I will tell you the report already went out. Ya on December 20th to 7777 email addresses, and begging them to send it to everyone they know. And it went broad. Lots of cop shops, globally. Domestic abuse agencies. Some random executives of companies. Lulu lemon (I like your clothes). I sent it to some sun wing. I need a vacation.
Lots of government. Ministries. Schools.
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Some actually completely random people.
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Not only do I not care, BUT THIS IS EVERYONES PROBLEM. Domestic abuse is all abuse. Every single person that’s malicious. Every single person that’s willing to hurt others, every single one is raised in a home. We keep adding police for the end of life problem not realizing that we could have stopped it like 7 times along the way before it got to this level of dangerous. People are literally ignoring the problem until people are dead then lying like they had no idea.
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Now you may be wondering why my accounts aren’t blowing up yet, and it turns out the QR contact link maxed out and I have to pay like 400 to get it working again and I’m honestly maxed out. People Including family are trying to stop me and I’m maxxed out. I’m standing on this hill completely alone. I need help. And probably a hug.
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Nothing happens by chance. I know that. Deeply. Oh, I’ve seen it.
So I’m taking this like its some extra time. And there may be people hunting for me. Isn’t that fun. Like a mystery.
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The world needs a bit more fun don’t you think.
Is correlating a skill?
At my level of social anomaly I always felt like I should have had a special skill and I did – but I just didn’t know it until later in life. But the work I’m about to show you in the next set of videos is an example of it.
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I am actually very good at correlating large amounts of information in my head. My brain recognizes patterns in between different concepts, Laterally across subjects, and at an impressively large scale. And you will find that it naturally comes out of my speech. My brain is aggressively holistic and honestly, I have a difficult time turning this off. People that are aggressively polarized left have a hard time understanding me because their cognition lives on the opposite side – in bucket land.
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During this roadshow I am going to hit a bunch of different subjects and that’s on purpose. Its because they are all related. I’m here to put the story back together for you.
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I’m starting with data but just be aware. There is much, much more. After I table this solution (which is basically for the benefit of society and my safety – were going to go real deep into why this problem exists and then I’m going to suggest how to fit it. (that’s the burrow – Gonna need help here too)
Data is better than chocolate
Ah, I love data. There is nothing quite like plain truth and its always right. Reliable. Trustworthy.
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Seems in my life that people really like me to be wrong. Me I think my kindness makes it hard for folks to outright hate me, so I get a lot of sneaky manipulative, people that question every idea I have, always make me feel lower. Less.
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We will talk about the fact that we have allowed jealousy to hide a generation of beautiful women later (princesses). Jealous women have been supported in these value deficiencies for far too long.
Emotionally immature exists within both of the sexes, and I think its just generationally polarized. Which makes sense. It’s their moms. Swaps (usually) generation over generation. Mommas little boy – daddys little girl. Treasure one and demean the other.
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In a world where the view across the table is skewed –Data is the only source of truth. Basically one of the only things people to back me up when my thoughts were needlessly challenged constantly. My relationship with data basically proved my worth. Data and I are great friends.
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The task wasn’t hard, there was just so much of it.
The data cleaning itself was a good 8 months of the work partly because I stupidly had saved the data in screenshots. This wasn’t really my fault. When all of my accounts were compromised (this is early in the data) I started to save all the data in screenshots in a secure folder as all of my accounts got moved over and had security revisions. Having things happen such as this in addition to this is a concept I’m floating in the paper called “bombing” – I’ll talk more about this later.
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This acted against me in the end as I ended up having to manually input a great deal of it. I actually tried an OCR program that flat out failed me. The amount of time it took to manually edit it was unexpected. I didn’t know how long it was going to take I just knew I had to work till it was done.
It HAD to be right. I have work for an organization wherein the data quality is important. It had to be right.
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There was also changing parameters. I took out all of the communications that were sent to other parties. I also spent an exorbitant amount of time recording the time stamps to try and show escalation. There is already more than necessary there to move forward and complexity if not our friend, so I left it out.
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In the end it was 150000 words, manually categorized the old data way. I’m a little nuts now.
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The Power of Data
TI could have put this through an AI program. I could have asked chat GPT. But I knew, based on my previous experience with large data sets, that this would give me numbers, but would not give me what I’m going to give you. Once I have had to go through data for an extended period of time the structure just appears to me. And its almost like it clicks, like BING – then I know exactly how it works. Like “click” then I know I don’t even have o wonder anymore.
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The trifecta that I’m going to go through, Blame/threat/demean. Is Powerful. Its comprehensive. It works.
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But that’s not the only thing I got out of it. You may be wondering why I’m so confident as many people like me aren’t. and its in part because I had to do this. I went in trying to find how wrong my partner was, Reviewing the data showed me how right I was.
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Realizing I had been so gaslighting in my life to constantly take
blame. Constantly feel like I had something to apologize for. Just basically apologize for existing
I was never wrong. And I know exactly who I am.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Secrecy.
Sharing = Growth
You know, I sometimes reflect on the illogical way that society approaches a “crazy woman”. Like there is some risk of having a “crazy woman” in you life like they are the ones to blame for something like shooting up a public place. Ah, we have been living in such a delulu land of stupid. I really reflect on that.
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I feel like when someone reaches the level of panic it takes to look erratic, its likely for a purpose. Like, a human one.
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When something acts erratic and everything else is normal – it attracts attention. Like its SUPPOSED to!
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Let me give you an example. I want you to imagine that you live in a village beside a forest and the forest has wolves.
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Now I like wolves more than people so this is just an example. This ones are bad.
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Anyways, a woman comes running out of the forest one day screaming “there’s wolves in the forest”. She’s acting erratic. She’s supposed to. She’s supposed to get attention – why, cause she has an important message. Don’t go into the bloody forest. If we all listened to her, no one would go into the forest, we would all live another day on the planet. Her erratic behaviour led to learning (growth) for an entire community.
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But that’s not what happened. What happened is there was people wearing wolves clothing and they were no, she’s crazy and lying and basically started feeding people to the forest. Now were three generations of the wolves manipulating the people so much that the people don’t even trust the people. Everyone is wearing a mask and is terrified of everyone else. Now its manipulation on top of manipulation
The only way we release ourselves from the anarchy is taking off all the clothing and bring fucking honest. Own your shitty parts and then try and fucking fix them.
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You cannot fix a problem you don’t see. Every generation that ignores this problem is another one that perpetuates it.
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We are living things on this planet and life everything else. If we do not grow, we will die.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Secrecy.
Can't Bond with a Mask on
Now When people think “god, she’s oversharing” just understand this – I’m over here thinking. God are you under sharing?
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Now I’ve had an awful; time in my life making friends and I know why. I was born of a mother who, very deeply, doesn’t like women (or the divine feminine) actually that’s a good time to put this on the chart.
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As I mentioned in a previous video – I think there is a whole generation of us… like a wave of polarized personalities. All with the same problem. Controlling mother, then controlling partners. Divine feminine born into curses that they did not deserve to carry. Y’all breaking cycles too??
Because of this, I’ve had a very difficult time making other bonds with women. Also, because of this I went hunting for love in a similar place and obviously that didn’t end well.
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Secrecy means in some way you re masking. You are pretending in one way shape or form. There is a wall in between your truth and what you are exposed to the environment.
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This insinuates that there is a perceived threat. Like, if you knew everything about me there would be a risk to me. I have something to hide. Or there is something about me that I am ashamed of. I fear being seen. All of these feelings are perpetuated by people that have something to hide.
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To truly bond with someone, you must be vulnerable. Otherwise its just small talk and bullshit. Now honestly, is this most of relationships that people currently call friendships? 100%. Explains a lot doesn’t it.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Secrecy.
The Unculling of Truth
Now people in the past have not been able to talk about these very extremely important social issues because we have lived in manipulation land. Because truth was based on who was speaking at the time and not based on actual truth.
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Now that we have data. All of that changes. Now that we have data. Victims can voice their stories without the concern that someone can lie louder. Support for the people that don’t want to scream like vicious animals. And the identification of people that straight up lie to get their way. Again, this is not to put them in jail. These people have neurological issues – they need to be stopped first so they don’t hurt people. Then Isolated and helped. The costs of upkeeping this anarchy on the system guaranteed are much greater then the help.
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I will make a couple comments before digging into data here
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All of the names in this report have bee changed. Is it true? Maybe. Maybe not. It could actually all be a lie. Who knows. Were dealing with much bigger issues that the petty threat of being tied up in a court room for such trivial matters. Stupid. This will never see a courtroom. The intention here is not to hurt or tear children from other people. Also globally doesn’t fix anything, at all. The intention is to control malicious behaviour and the weaponization of children which in part was done in my case as soon as I started speaking.
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All of the Data from the report was from AFTER the separation of this relationship I’m not sharing anything from when I agreed to stay. This was far after I was already begging for peace. This was after one full breakup already. Sorry manipulation land is done. Truth land is here. I had to dump logic and run up the hill on faith alone a long time ago, I don’t care if I get sued. I understand just how important this is even if you don’t.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Secrecy.
Gang Stalking Cure to Shame
Early in the dataset you will see there was an incident wherein my accounts were compromised.
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I called in the hackcident. I know, super cute. I had no idea how much that would impact my sense of safety. I was terrified. It took over a week of me basically in shambles, while being harassed, 2 FA on everything. Feeling like I’m being watched through my TV. Insane stuff. I did that once. The running away from being watched. I did it once, succumbing to the irrational fear of being watched. I did it until I realized what it was – someone else’s shame. And resulting fear from said shame. It wasn’t even mine.
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When it happened again and I was head deep in the data I had to make a choice. I had to choose between going down the path of redoing my accounts again, which would take a weeks and stress. Or to just accept that this would just keep happening and blast forward anyway. I’m very conscious that this if I had focused on all the roadblocks I would not be here and that was on purpose.
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And I let things drop lot. I had to. And I’m doing it now. I let things just fall, I let people judge me irrationally, let bills slip – I’m maxxed out now. I just snow plowed to get it done. Realizing that this report also in a way saved me from the madness that would have ensued if I had given all of these petty moves any mind. Even now, I’m ignoring everybody – so sorry again.
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Honestly my brain is not letting me do anything else. I feel like I’m not even in the driver seat sometimes. Its this and my daughter and that’s it.
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At this point, however, I really had to examine/deal with my relationship to the fear of being watched. They are trying to make you scared of being watched but why. In the absence of a physical threat – why is someone scared of being seen. What I realized at some point down the pipe was that I didn’t have much of a reason to be private outside of someone trying to take something from me. I was taught to be like that from someone that had something to hide. I was holding someone else’s shame.
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I don’t do anything that interesting. Honestly in retrospect I’m quite boring. Like I know what people do in their homes and I know that there is a better show elsewhere. For the last 10 months I have been basically crying at my computer for 16 hours a day. Come, watch – I’ll make coffee. You can watch as someone is allowed to rip my whole life apart a chunk at a time. Every friend. My family.
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Everyone want to get around the table and talk about how an entire community could be manipulated by someone who doesn’t have 5 braincells to rub together. Lets all talk about that.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Overview.
A Numbers Game
Your brain is calculating numbers as you speak. And you don’t even know it.
Numbers are the universal language, and understanding the lateral meanings is things like this is where I found my connection to god. I don’t look at god the same way I think as most. God is life for me. And what a spectacular piece of art. Understanding the lateral meanings and how it all the same thing is god for me. Life is art. its nothing short of spectacular.
So for this fun experiment You will need 2 people and a bit of pre planning.
You will need to plan a conversation. One where the conversation back and forth is at a ration to 1-1, as in you are saying the same amount of words as the other person, and another wherein the ratio is different. Say 2-1. Don’t change the tone. Don’t change the content. Just change the ratio of words in between one party and the other party.
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What you will find is that just changing the number of words will start to sound aggressive. One person will start to sound dominant without needing to change the content or tone. The numbers are a clear indicator of behaviour.
The numbers mirror the sentiment. Lateral meanings in life. When you see it Like you can’t look at it directly without saying “wow”. Like just wow.
Human beings are supposed to bond and in lieu of that they will bond with god. It always happens that way. On purpose I think. For if you are not bonding and creating connections in you life like you're supposed to, you need god. When I look at the period in humanity wherein god rises again it always in a time wherein humans aren’t bonding with eachother. A time wherein they need change outside themselves. Poetic right? Humanity is built to save itself.
Anyways – this concept was mirrored for me in real life.
In the depths of the madness I was experiencing a concept called “bombing”. This is basically harassment + petty crime. Toxic bread and butter basically
So their harassing you and specifically throwing wrenches to discombobulate you. Independently the moves are not that significant. But utilized in tandem. The harassment plus the random inconveniences create an environment wherein you are constantly in psychological panic. You cannot calm down. Its basically torture. And it needs to be considered that.
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Expecting persons to be normal functioning parts of society while they are experiencing this is irrational, and I really sit back and wonder how many people are on the streets because of it. How many.
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How many. Fuck.
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I tried to maintain friendships while I was going through this mess, I really did. But I’ll tell you exactly what happened, and this is where I started to recognize my internal calculator. I would call friends I hadn’t talked to in a while. They all have their own lives. The people I relate to usually have bog jobs. And big lives.
Anyways I would call and it would be all me. There was so much awful shit happening, I would completely dominate the conversation. It was basically like I was verbally vomiting out. And I would feel that.
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At the end of the conversation I would have this immense guilt because I took the entire 45 mins of time to talk about my shit. We never got to the other shit. Its like I couldn’t be a friend. The panic took that away from me. I couldn’t give back the other 50%. I didn’t have the mental capacity to do it.
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This is not a sob story, I’m trying to make a point. The numbers is basically writing the story in a different language. A comparable one.
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Now when you look at the numbers and how they represent the situation. If the numbers were even fight. If it was an even fight, the numbers would be 1-1. The purpose is to identify situations wherein the abuse is one sided.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Overview.
A Whole New World
15000 words, and honestly I cut that down, I actually analyzed more. The time frame for the dataset was changed more than once.
150 000 words. Every single one of them painful. Every single one of them spat in my face with malice. 150 000 words
Like if you wonder why I am the way I am. Its because of these 150 000 words. This was by far the most painful but life changing piece of work that I have ever completed. I’m pretty sure I died in the middle and was reborn.
I literally finished it on my birthday and was left with one person in my life to celebrate with. Like many people like me I was abandoned while I was being abused. Like just one extra kick while you're laying on the ground.
Anyways I don’t have a lot of people in my life anymore. But that’s OK, turns out a lot of them sucked. So after I try and fix the whole world. I’m gonna be looking for some people who also been abandoned so they can come and join me in the forest to build a new home.
Actually multiple homes I have no desire to share actual rooms. Just close enough that you notice when I don’t come out of the house for three days.
And I’m also gonna need to hide. Cause I’m gonna make a lot of noise right now.
Anyways, More on the Burrow later.
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I didn’t have the language early in my relationship. The only verbiage I had was he was mean to me. Little cuts everywhere.
Going into the data I knew the importance of buckets. I worked with large data sets before and the real prize coming out of projects such as this is the structure. Its not the data itself.
When I first took on the data it was to pull out the obvious blows. Big threats. Obvious insults. But when I got into the language there was much more than the obvious language. Insinuated items. Manipulation. Backhanded comments.
I was aiming at comprehension because the goal is to produce a AI product that can do this for us. So that nobody ever has to again. in Comprehensive all the abusive language or anything that could be considered abusive would be included in the data. Leaving only items like statements or questions behind.
I started with things like ‘insults” and “belittling”. But what I found in the end is much more beautiful. The trifecta that I’m going to talk about in the next bunch of videos. Blame, demean, threat is comprehensive. And its fucking beautiful.. it clicked in my head and basically rang. Like my ears rang.
I did the full kundalini thing a while ago. It was a series of throwing my back out actually. Went straight up 4 spots over 6 months. Actually it was quite painful. But now I get a trail a goosebumps from my ass all the way to the top of my hear. Its quite magical.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Overview.
All the Same Story
So I knew I was in trouble neurologically when I started to loose blocks of time. I went directly into therapy. I had the support of a therapist during this madness. I had therapists tell me to leave him, I knew it pained her to say it, but I was not OK.
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I called CAS when my daughter started to ger involved in fight. My ex was denying her therapy at the time and I was begging for it. I was so powerless cause she was getting hurt and I had no control. It was terrifying.
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CAS does nothing unless the child has bruises. So basically I was put in therapy. Don’t do anything about the abuser, apparently he's just fine. You need therapy. You get stronger. The toxic people are just fine. Its you that has the problem cause you're not strong enough to put up with it or smart enough to avoid it completely, You need to change.
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Now lets step back a second and ponder on what society would look like if we had a generation of basically Amazonian divine feminine.
Actually – lets put that on the chart now. Tha’t better
Ok so a generation wherein the divine feminines were forced to heal I don’t know 9-10 times in their lifetime trying to couple with a generation of men that don’t even know how ro book their own fucking doctors appointments. Their still holding mommys hands. They don need to heal. Theyre perfect. Right?
Now, societally ragy men have value. Uncontrollable rage can be used very easily. Uncontrollable rage is a resource for some government. And when their ragey, their illogical. They will literally lemming their asses onto a battlefield and not understand how fucked up until their crying for their mummies. Wanna know how many get there then start crying for their mummies talk to a veteran. I honestly think that’s this is where stimulants found their place here.
Anyways I LOVED group therapy. I loved every second of it. And as someone that has been quite hermity in my life – I was terrified at first.
Sitting in those room with those women was incredible. I got so much knowledge from those sessions. And if any of those ladies are listeining. I’m sorry I’m shitty at keeping in touch and I’m proud of you. I’m still learning how to do the friend thing really.
The most valuable piece of knowledge I got however was the consistency – the consistency between abuse cases. The legal system deals with these cases on a case by case basis, which is honestly not only inefficient but illgocal. But we will get to that later. But the stories have so much consistency that I’m flaberghasted that no one has done this yet.
Now I chose to be there but I think I was the only one. The other folks around the table were put into the program because they had active criminal cases ongoing with their previous partners. My abuse package only got up to physical intimidation but I was not physically abused. Just manipulated. The ladies around the table from me were beaten. Badly.
I was going to be hurt. And I knew it. I could feel it. Every alarm bell in my body was going off. That’s when I shut up and hide basically. Like literally behind doors. I did that for 3 months then he took my car.
I said that in the therapy sessions and OMG did it ring around every table. Every single victim had their car taken from them.
I was stuck in 10 acres of forest, no car, my social system crumbling under the pressure of the gossip. In 120K of debt in my name only from the housebuild cause I was the only one with credit. Locked there with a psychopath. I should be dead. I had no choice to leave my hone. And If you think he would have not hurt me your fucking ignorant. He was already trying to hurt me. I would have much rather beaten than what he did to my life.
But it wasn’t just the car. The harassment. The very specific langualgs in emails for court. lThe procession of events was so consistent amongsat abuse vactimes…. I know its not an anaonoly. One more time. The procession of events post separation was so consistent that I know its not an anaomoly. And the procession of events has a name.
its called “terrorize your ex so baly that they loose their kids”. Fucked up right.
Now I know my ex’s conitive speed and to say I trump him there would be the greatest understatement of the century. I tried to bring him up (ythis was a mistake)m and instead he pulled me down. Because of this I started to really ponder where this entire generation of toxic divine masculines were getting their information from. Like is there a group chat or something.
But I don’t think that’s it. I think theyre bing advised by generation that did this. Mummy deaest. Who ran the same program 40 years agio. Just the sexes were swapped. a generation of toxic mommas are basically doing the same tghuing that they did to their ex husbands in the 80s and 90s.
Now theres a lot of malicious gossip flying about about me. I dint even need to hear it. I can feel it from people. (you get special skills in trauma land)
And I would bet if I tracked that information back, I know where I would come from.
This generation of toxic males has some power behind them, and is very hellbent is ensuring her little toxic bomb is protected. Cluck cluck cluckidy cluck ladies.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Overview.
Abuse on a Page. The Trifecta.
The Report
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The Report is on the webby. I would strongly suggest that you read the PDF version as the data is just prettier in the report. I’m flipping through it now.
Don’t worry about catching anything on this video, I’ll be reviewing all the content in the upcoming videos.
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The report is formatted generally in the same as this video series. The first half of the report is a discussion regarding the structure of emotional abuse and what each type looks like. and the second half of the report is the data I have computed from my case.
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The data is further drilled in each section and I’ll briefly dig into some of the content in the upcoming videos
Abuse on a page
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Abuse on a page. OMG what a visual. There is moments I actually get really proud of myself. This page has power.
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You will see the trifecta in the columns in the middle of the sheet. I'll provide you with some very high level definitions at this point but I will dig into a bit more detail when I go into the type videos
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To demean is to take away ort impact someone’s meaning. This bucket includes anything in the belittling and insult section. Demeaning is a very large section.
Demeaning is relative and hierarchical. When you insult somebody, or you are pointing out a character trait about them which you and that person have deemed to be negative, what you deem as negative is societally based and it likely quite variant case to case. Which insinuates that you are better than them, above them.
Calling someone stupid insinuates that you are not as stupid as them. One has a negative character trait that the other does not.
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A blame is something negative that has occurred in the past
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a threat is something negative that may occur in the future
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both a blame Anna threat have a timed component to it.
These are actions taken on the victim, but they are intentioned at the following outcomes.
Threats are trying to make you fearful. Scared.
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Blame is trying to give you a sense of obligation and Demeaning Comments are trying to provide a sense of Shame.
In addition to the types of abuse, you will also see vehicles. This is where you will find all of the current hot psych words such as Gaslighting and Coercive Control. These are concepts depicting the way the abuse is delivered, which is most cases acys like an amplifer for the abuse types. The driver in a sense.
I have pulled these out in the report as they provide important examples.
An Incident. The Trifecta. And how 3=7
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So at first I went into this massive data set without lines. So I went into this massive data set and started to pull out incidences of abuse when I started to do this work I didn't even know what the lines were when I started this work it was just belittling and insults and threats. I started to realize that the parameters for an incident we're a little bit fuzzy. In some circumstances an incident could be an entire sentence or insults in between commas. It took awhile for me to come up with a definition for what an incident is.
When I look at an e-mail that say 2 or 300 words long that means that all of the abusive language would only leave non-abusive asexual language behind. so basically, statements and questions that kind of thing.
An incident for the purpose of this report is one thought one insult one blame one threat.
In these circumstances some of the data is multi sentence is long and some of the data is literally just one word.
The Trifecta. 3=7
classifying the data was much much easier as soon as the trifecta started to come clear because of its comprehensiveness. Again, its bloody beautiful.
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What appeared quite quickly is that it wasn't actually 3 categories to fulfill the requirements of what the definition of an incident is there was cross categories across these three main groups so these three categories is actually 7
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To show you this I made you a little chart of examples.
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There is there is demeaning threats. Ie because you’re stupid something bad
There's demeaning blames there's incidences that have a threat and a blame for example because you did X I'll do X. Three categories are actually 7.
The trifecta is clean and applicable now. This can be used to assess domestic abuse cases NOW. This is solid.
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The vehicles, and second level analysis is being provided in this report for discussion and future development. As the concepts are still now solid and the measurement is not comprehensive, it would b difficult to suggest their use at this time in a formal environment.
Gaps and Limitations
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None of the incidences are weighted, and there is some significant variance. To ensure its comprehensive
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Some of this looks like completely normal language and should be considered as such. I think it would be dangerous to call any of these items (outside of straight up maliciousness and threats) completely wrong. All of these things occur in daily life, especially blame which is some cases may be complete warranted.
The point of this is to clearly identify aggressors in situations wherein this is very polarized.
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And I’ll remind you again – if this is an even fight, the numbers will be even. The ratios would be 1:1, the percentages would be 50/50. The purpose of this system is to identify polarity in which one person is basically being pounded and not retaliating.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Types
Demeaning
Its really eye opening at the later stage in you life to find that you have been basically utilized as a garbage can by a person who has been allowed to abuse because they don’t haver the mental maturity to Take accountability for what they do, Those days are done. I’m not your fucking garbage can anymore. Not for one more day.
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The purpose of this report is to talk about these hard issues without having to sink down to your disgusting levels. I don’t have to say I’m better than you out loud for it to me true.
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Be aware, any abuses laid onto my daughter or myself will be posted, publicly, and in a way that it would be very difficult to reprimand me for it. I’m that smart. Maybe stop trying to play gamers with people that are smarter than you. I don’t want to play but if I’m forced you’re not going to like it. If you make me play you will realize that I could have won the whole time. I’M NOT LIKE YOU.
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Now I know that people have stupidly told you that you’re perfect and don’t need to change. Let me just clarify for you not only can you change. YOU MUST TRY. Were not playing kid games anymore.
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Like empathises with like. A group of angry narcissists is irrational and they lie. A group of angry narcissists is a mob. Take you god dammed fingers our of your ears. Were talling about my problem now but let me tell you it is far greater than just me.
The last generation put th pride of their parents above the mental health of their kids. We’re not going to do that. We fight for what is right. So the next three videos are going to be centred on the three buckets of the trifecta and I’ll be reviewing the concepts.
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The data is drilled in each of the three buckets differently. I’m going to kick this off with Demeaning, then we will go onto blame, then finally we will it threats
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Definition:
“Demeaning behaviour is any action or communication that makes someone else feel inferior or less valuable than they actually are….
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This includes insults, belittling, name calling, backhanded insults, any action which impacts a persons self concept.
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When I think about self concept it kinda looks like a video game…… kind of like this…..
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With the “you are stupid” insult, they are attacking your intelligence. Like this. If your self concept is rock solid, you may be able to keep this level. But what happens over time is you don’t get it back. By the time that you leave…… your this. By the time you get help……. You could look like this.
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Now if you are or have been in a relationship like this please good god spend some time alone before you get into your next relationship. If your self concept doesn’t have a chance to recover youre just going to end up in the same spot. Don’t do that to yourself. You have to get your levels back up OK.
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Now I know that we talk quite a bit about how this happens, but I think the next stage in learning will be this. Yes. Its basically enslavement.
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Now demeaning is a monster category, so the data is drilled into 4 different categories The first three are what I call offensive because the abuser is trying to put the abuser below them. This is direct insults, insinuated traits, and Malice.
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And one defensive one that I pulled out of the data just for kicks. This category is demeaning but instead of putting the victim below them they are putting themselves above the victim. I call this one forcing gratitude.
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Direct Insults: Direct attack on a character trait which is a component of the victims self concept
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Insinuated traits: Indirect attack on a character trait which is a component of the victims self concept
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Malice: Total attack on person & “down talking”
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Forcing Gratitude: An indirect attack wherein the abuser degrades by creating an environment wherein the victim is expected to show gratitude. “you are supposed to be grateful for me”
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Types
Blaming
Blaming
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So I’m gonna kick this one off with a quote from Brene Brown. “Blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain. It has an inverse relationship with accountability.”
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Blame is basically passing accountability from one person to another. This occurs when one person is not emotionally mature enough to process their bad feelings, so they take that energy and basically relay it like a ping pong ball. This is another energy exchange, but the energy is going in an inverse way.
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This is facilitated by an environment that allows them to act in this way. Its allowed.
And I’ll come back to this slide with the feeding. But Blame is how the abuser gives energy back. The more I conceptually think about this the more malicious it becomes.
The light has been fed on for far too long. Everything is connected. Balance must be restored.
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Within Text both blame and threatening categories have a time element. When you blame someone for something, that “something” has occurred in the past. When you threaten someone, that “something” is in the future.
Blame in Data
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So a reminder, the purposes of this report is to drive an AI product that can produce this data consistently for use within the court system to stop the family court madness. Basically mass producing broken people.
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It will do this by making cases comparable and providing benchmarks for abuse. The idea is to be able to produce these metrics without eyewitness accounts. The reason for this is
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Blame in data would not be a good independent indicator of abuses without eyewitness accounts as it would be difficult to tell if the incident is valid (are they blaming them for something they actually did or not). When you’re being terrorized there may be very legit abuses. Within the drill down there may be indicators which I will review, but at this level it would be hard to determine whether the blame is valid.
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BUT you know what the blame section provides in Lieu? The entire story. This is incredibly useful. For the authorities who are involved. You get the whole story without eyewitness accounts which are obviously malleable.
Drilled Blame
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Both the blame and the threat categories have been drilled into subject.
Two specific categories of value within this drill down are categories wherein the blame does not have a tangible incident, or basically being blames for yourself. This is subcategorized into being blamed for your behaviour. (the way you are is insulting in itself)
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And being blamed for your abusers reaction. (I.E. its your fault I’m acting this way)
What this looks like in data, I’ll give you some examples.
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“there’s no one more full of shit than you”— This is a good example of a Blame/Demeaning comment. The “full of shit” part is the demeaning component. The “there is no one more” insinuates I’ve been full of shit before.
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This is categorized as “behaviour” as your being blamed for being “full of shit” in the past which it not a tangible thing. You are being blamed for your behaviour.
Blame.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Types
Threatening
Threatening.
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I know exactly what has happened to me. I got traumatized way over here into this space. In this space you go into hypercreative land. This is where your brain goes when you are in trouble and there's no solution available in you environment. Which makes sense, you get to make a new one.
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Its like a failsafe program. If you’re in real danger you get more information. And sometimes special skills. And this concept is replicated in are more times than I could could say on film. Person gets traumatized then gets special skills.
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I was intuitive before all of this trauma but the level I’m at now is a tad uncanny.
I have energetic connections with my 2 previous “handlers”. I can tell when they are talking about me. Doesn’t matter where they are. If you ever se me yawning a lot, like over and over again, it because there is someone toxic about. It took me a while to put that together. I cant always tell who it is.
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I get Kundalini goosebumps when I’m right on something. They go straight up my spine.
I manage my energy quite viciously after all of this and I don’t go out in public often. I’m a bit of an open source battery which can push and pull. I think there are many with iterations of these skills that may not know, Going out is exhausting for me sometimes so I rest a lot.
I get a divine masculine soon, Its like I can feel the energy coming but have no idea where its coming from. I have no idea. Its only energy for me.
Just be aware I look put together but my life is a mess. If I paid attention to all the balls that were falling around me, and literally being thrown at me, I wouldn’t have finished.
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I look calm but I’m very good at living in chaos. I have run directly at this without paying attention. My brain was and is still screaming at me the whole time. I don’t have a choice here, I don’t think I’m driving my bus. I don’t know how to explain that to people. My brain will not let me stop
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But I think I’m supposed to make a massive impact here. So. Do I care, no.
Anyways I’m drowning but I cant stop. So please come help. I’m not going to be able to take a break until I feel safe.
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When I show you how this is all connected you will understand why I couldn’t care and just had to keep going. This is far bigger than me now.
Threats
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Again, like blame a threat has a time element to it. A threat is responsibility for a negative event in the future. Something that will happen.
This is by far the most solid indicator of abuse; many threats already sit in a legal dark area.
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But while they’re are a good indicator of abuse. This is the section in which you will see the most weighted variance (how vicious it is). There are many threats that are very minimal and vague like this. VS something much more impactful like this.
Threats, like blame is also categorized by subject. And similar to the blame section Data of interests is within the categories wherein the intended thing to occur was unclear. In this analysis this includes 1 group of insinuated threats and one group wherein there was insinuated abuse.
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Some examples of insinuated
this is a good example of another cross category this is a blame slash threat in this case the blame component is you refuse to discuss it and then the threat is I will take control.
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Some Examples of Insinuated Abuse
This is all you need. These three concepts. These three numbers. This is the whole thing.
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Sound simple. Its because it is. If this is implemented properly it will revolutions the system so fast ill be like a band aid.
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As soon as toxic people are forced to examine their own behaviour, we have fixed 50% of the problem right there.
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It’ll be like 20 cases when the judges start to get pissed off cause now their job is simply signing forms.
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Anyways, I‘m going to go into the vehicles because they are of interest. But understand. This is it.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Vehicles
Driving Pain
So, were heading into the vehicles of abuse but, again, these are not needed to assess emotional abuse. The Trifecta is comprehensive there.
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Within the report there are three vehicles of abuse discussed. These are Harassment & Bombing
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Projection/Gaslighting
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And Coercive control/Triangulation
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the vehicles are conceptually like delivery systems, that have their own level of evil. Like evil cars driving the trifecta around.
The vehicles (Harassment, Triangulation, and Gaslighting) are tactics which utilize the trifecta in different ways to amplify their impact. The Vehicles are basically how the trifecta is used.
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Harassment is simply the number of blame/demean/threats. When they send you 600 tests it includes many blame/demean/threats within it
Triangulation. They are using a third party to blame/demean/threat
Projection/Gaslighting. They are blame/demean/threatening you in their fucked up fantasy world and You get to come too.
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So this is a full cross categorization which mean with solid data I think it could be matrixed. Ah god the really geeky part of my brain gets excited about that and the data possibilities in terms of human behaviour. Matrixed data is very powerful. The possibilities. Like wow. Just wow.
Vehicles in Emotional Abuse Metrics/AI Product.
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It depends on the metric. Harassment is a very easy metric to implement and measure now. And we should now. But with the Gaslighting and the triangulation, I would need a consult to technical experts to determine what can and cannot happen in terms of what we can pull out in language now.
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I haven’t had my fingers in the AI environment for years now, and my experience there was limited at best. Again, I’m gonna need some help. Whether that this a software company coming in to design this. Or maybe a mental health umbrella adopts me to take this on. Honestly I next steps are a little unclear, this is abut as agile of a project as you can get.
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What I do know is that, while the trifecta is clean, comprehensive, and can be utilized now. Things such as Gaslighting would be difficult to pull our of data independent to interaction with the participants in the case. Challenges and opportunities will be for each of the vehicles in terms of data will be discussed in each upcoming video.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Vehicles
Harassment & Bombing
There is a billion definitions for harassment and I was super challenged to find one simple enough to utilize in this report. For the purposes of this the data for harassment is being limited to regular and persistent unwanted communications. So the amount of communications.
The calculation for this is so easy it would be done with basically any software currently in existence.
Harassment is the one and only section of the vehicles wherein the data could and should be utilized in real time to determine harassment.
Harassment in particular would be easy and useful. These metrics can be utilized to immediately support the restraining order process or any other process wherein a high conflict case is escalated to the next level.
As mentioned before, once you have a number of comparable cases, there will be a benchmark (or a median) show face easily. From there a line could be easily put in to ensure triage.
How many administrative red tape can be avoided.
Harassment metrics can also easily be utilized to determine escalation.
When you are in one of these relationships you know when it escalates to danger. And there is a ratio for it, we just don’t have a number for it yet. When the obsessiveness of the pounding of texts. Energy through the phone. Boom Boom Boom Boom. This is terror. And its meant to be.
You know when their anger exceed their logic. This is always a time when the victim goes silent. Danger.
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At this point the ration of the conversation will likely go from 1-1 to 1-600 in a minute.
This is a clear indication of escalation and a reliable indicator of impending danger.
Tracing these metrics real time could mean lives saved.
Bombing
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By the time the data set started my neurological health was awful and I knew it. I was at the point where I was tracking my symptoms with the environment and knew all I needed was some cognitive calm and I would be fine. All I needed some space to be OK.
And that was the point, they didn’t want me to be OK.
By the time I had the balls to leave I was begging for peace, my separation email (which is in the report) it itself was begging for space to facilitate this.
The harassment metrics got insane up into 4300 words a day. But just that, it was not enough, Harassment as a concept was not enough to describe what was happening.
In addition to the massive amount of communications I was receiving there was administrative anarchy, petty crime, just childish bullshit also being thrown my way which, as mentioned, independently wouldn’t be considered as awful as it was. But when you put all of these pieces Together, they make a environment wherein psychological safety is impossible. Its torture.
I call this concept “bombing”
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Vehicles
Projection & Gaslighting
What even IS reality.
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And I think this is especially pertinent right now as we're in the midst of a whole bunch of political issues. How many issues arise when we live in an environment with people and persons whom basically write their own reality, People that have been conditioned to think that it's OK for them to literally make up something it fits their rhetoric, then push it so hard that people think its true.
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The truth is is that many of these people have been doing this since they were children. They were allowed to just openly lie and blame other people. They were allowed to get away with it. Thus, they have been conditioned to continue this behaviour. It breeds.
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Functionally what this is doing is allowing a human to malform their preveption of an event by taking the energy from one emotion and put it into another. They take anger from their bad day at work and give it to their wife. Anger from the lack of social intimacy so they throw it into a political movement. While the lists of situations would be long and terrifying, it all sources back to one thing. Projection. I am making my own rality.
Projection & Gaslighting
Projection is the action from the abuser, Gaslighting is the impact on the victim.
Bob PROJECTED his environment onto the world. Mary was gaslit by Bob’s projection. The Gaslighting, if effective, malforms the victims projected reality as well, and you know what comes out of them., Rose coloured glasses. The projection from the victim is normalizing the abusers behaviour with the “this is fine rhetoric”
There would be arguments about this, but gaslighting would be up at the top of the list for me in terms of detrimental neurologicasl damage over long periods of time. You end up with these victims with such a twisted sense of reality literally all of their defenses are taken from them. These are neurological slaves.
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I’m gonna give you an example and this one is made up to show progression. this one is not from data.
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“WTF, how dar you say I hit you. I barely grazed you face. What the hell is wrong with you, I’m afraid of you. Youre the one who ran in here screamining, Youre the one who put me in the corner. I never even did that”
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Now, as a person who has been around the table with whose who create false realities, you understand that arguning with this is insane. Theren no point. There will never be a resolution. They literally twist everything said into malice. You just give up at some point. Logic NEVER enters the game.
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Now at this point you have been conditioned to give up some of your reality for peace. Because pushing up against every lie is a war. It’s a war every time.
When it happens once the little piece in your head is holding onto truth, it starts to get weaker. It gets weaker and weaker. In the end you end up with this person that is like a little defenceless little cloud of a human that has been conditioned to take abuse; the pieces that are supposed to protect them are gone.
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Real time example.
I was never allowed to get angry. I wasn’t allowed to fight back. I was raised in an environment where that wasn’t allowed.
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Parents does equate these two things. Like stopping your daughter from getting angry at home May make her into a autonomous little abuse bot later, but it does. Your taking her defenses away,.
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I had to find my anger later,. I learned I had locked her away, my little anger beast. I set her free. And Ooh, shes a different beast.
Data - Were not there yet. And if we are I would have ethical questions…..
Gaslighting is basically a lie. It’s a lie about what has happened.
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In Data, the gaslighting I pulled out was based on what I could prove within the data engine. For example, there was many times that I was told “I’m not threatening you” while we have a clear metric for Threats. Also “I’m not harassing you”, this is easily countered by harassment metrics.
and I’ll provide some examples.
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Like you could also look at the other side and pull out all the instances wherein the victim expressly said something like that's not true but again this is fuzzy metrics. Could you go line by line and pull out ever incidence of Blame, that correlated with a lie statement later? Yes 100% you could.
that's not a solid line and that's why this especially with projection and gaslighting in lieu of having environmental information from the participants this would be a very difficult thing to stand behind as a consistent metric at this point.
Now, can we get environmental/behavioural information as well? that’s where the ethics will come in. and I will say those conversations need to be had. Like now.
New Concept: Projected Reframing.
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So this is a new concept that I coined through this process and it is one of the most fucking enraging things that a person can do in a conflict.
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So reframing is a concept utilized in psychotherapy wherein the therapist will take a bulk of information from the patient in verbiage will reframe it more efficiently and then relay it back to the victim in hopes to structure their own information in a way that causes them to see the story from a different perspective.
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In projected reframing, the abuser is reframing what you said, but with an gaslighting twist to it. This usually looks like someone throwing your words back to you in way that is outlandish for what actually occurred. It typically starts off with “so youre saying that….”
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Sometimes its completely irrational. Like I would talk about a birthday party and I would randomly get , “so youre saying you don’t want me to come”
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The thing that’s so effective about this tactic is that it always puts the victim into a defensive position. They end up retracting to explain what they said. Their reality is in question.
Structure of Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse Vehicles
Coercive Control & Triangulation
So coercive control. A very hot topic right now, and a lot of governments are fighting to define it.
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A couple have taken a good shot at it so here's the Canadian government and I also pulled out the one from the UK as well. A someone who has worked within the business industry I look at these and think immediately of this.
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(SMART Goals)
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The thing is, most things within the legal field are incredibly vague. Especially in comparison to business terms. Very rarely is there any actual measures. All of the parameters are very fuzzy, very vague, and very pliable language.
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I think about all the rich people that are in the legal industry how many people are making billions of dollars offer the legal the industry like you think that they would be smart people on the table and you thought God nobody's ever tried to fix this. No one in the past 40 years looked around at that hey this seems inefficient and stupid let's try and clean that up a bit. Why don't we clean up the crap at the bottom of the pile of paper instead of just putting more paper on top of it?
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Y'all are standing around a fucking burning building shrug your shoulders
God dammed it, every time I look at stuff I get disappointed.
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When I deeply think about it all of these problems, they all come back to the same thing. The legal industry is missing creative people. Creative people is where change happens. We’re deficient in creative people everywhere the creative people are the emotional side of your brain there literally being culled from the environment it's the whole problem. Nothing survives without change.
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If the control wins, Atlantis falls
you know what I do when I look at this I see this
When I read legal jargon I think , God there's a lot of gaps there. Now I know that some of the people that sit around the table also sit around the table in the business field, so I understand that you know that there's gaps too. The I think, do these gaps serve a purpose? Of course, they would have to leave little gaps to ensure that certain people could get away with things. There's been some really bad people that have squeaked through those little cracks….. And for all the people that top that are watching this now, the people that are super proud to be sitting on top of that pile of shit. I want you to look around and thank God did we let that happen too many times?
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The definition for coercive control should signify what it actually is.
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Coercive control does not only occur in familial relationships, it also occurs in bullying relationships, in workplace relationships. Coercive control is basically one human being utilizing another human being like puppet. Funny how that all
correlates.
Coercive control is a human being expecting you to comply with their my style, riz, demands, etc and then forcefully making you comply when you don't want. And they do that through emotional abuse.
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As I said the light bulbs have been locked up for far too long. Don't worry we're gonna fix it.
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So I would like to suggest an alternate definition for coercive control and this is it is super simple: coercive control is purposely putting someone into a position to make a decision that they would not otherwise make
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coercive control is purposely putting someone into a position to make a decision that they would not otherwise make
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So next is triangulation and this is the last video in the structure series.
I had neurological issues as a child. I had issues so that gave people the right to talk behind my back, and beside my back, and basically right in front of me. The problem was I was expected to just take it.
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Actually they're still doing it now, some people really like to feed off the light.
Triangulation is another one that's near and dear to my heart, this was this was the bulk of my abuse and the reason why I am still level 12 lonely. Triangulation is a form of coercive control. Triangulation is a person utilizing a third party to control you; they are using a third party to make you make decisions you would not otherwise.
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This comes in a couple different ways, not only are these people functionally using the third party to control you, it also controls the victims through isolation. Loneliness is terrifying, and I would say the social isolation may be one of the most damaging. Human beings are meant to bond, oh we get this wrong all the time, Human beings are meant to bond with other humans but in lieu with having another human there to bond with you bond with something else, and I think it's almost always either a substance or God. When you're lonely, putting people into a position where they need to make these choices and incredibly dangerous. If you surface from a relationship like this and you're not dependent on something like….. I've never met a person that didn't I've never met a person
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it's OK being popular right now is not a flex.
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Triangulation can look vicious sometimes and sometimes it looks completely innocent. sometimes it's just a person lying and saying that they're worried about you, You’re so unhinged, off her rocker. While you're basically while you're being abused (which is what happened in my case). Good rule of thumb if you're talking about somebody you're not even talking to ,consider that. Stop spreading the garbage, and get a fucking life.
Triangulation in Data
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This is another area in data that's a little bit subjective. Parameters would have to be very clearly drawn before it was utilized in a functional sentence. You can easily get data and triangulation, all you need to do is go through the blame threat and demeaning, and then pull out any commentary that has a third party name in it. Super simple. The question I would have is in terms of comprehensiveness; like doesn't include everything. I think that's where where our heads will have to go to if we're going to apply this concept or metric into the data package some examples of triangulation that I pulled out in data….
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Final Report and Metrics
Final Report and Metrics
Final Metric Overview
OK, so were going to try a couple different video types and just keep in mind I’m learning. We will all look back later and laugh later. Again, anyone can change – you just need to try. And I think many people are afraid to try because they are afrtaid that awful people will make them feel bad. Bullies.
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Bullies want to make you afraid, But god try not to be, it just gives them more power. If you really look at them for what they are, you’ll understand that they are trying to suction power off of you because they don’t have much intrinsically . Just by themselves.
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Oh I’m waiting to get some flack on the internet. I’m actually a little excited about it. If you are getting hate from random people on the internet. People you don’t even know -0 this is not about you. They are using you as an outlet because they don’t have the emotional maturity to deal with their shit themselves. They are literally emotionally 5 years old and they haven’t grown up to be a real adults yet.
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I wouldn’t pay them any mind at all. Actually, maybe thank them. For sharing their neurological issue so you can help. Thanks BOB. And I would give him a thumbs up he will love that.
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What I know is, is that if BOB is throwing hate on the internet, hes likely throwing hate elsewhere. Is BOB married? Now I’m worried about his wife….. Does he have kids? I would be more worried about the kids.
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Time we start to deal with these problems in a holistic manner so we can actually solve these problems before they are weaponized. Fuck.
So a brief overview of the dataset.
The timeframe for the report is July 3rd 2023 to November 23rd 2024. This is 17 months of 517 days of time.
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The dataset includes 149, 000 words. This includes 131K sent via email, and 18K sent via text message. This includes 105K sent by DS, and 44K by ash. This is a ratio of 2.4:1.
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There is a disclaimer on the page noting that the dataset Is not complete and there is time periods missed. And that is 100% true. I’m am no kidding when I say I was not OK. I was very not OK. The fact that I had the combobulation to retain what I did amazed even me. Like I’m patting myself on the back fuck all of you. Anyways, again this is not going to court. But understand that my individual metrics will not matter. This is simply an example.
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And as long as my child isn’t brainwashed anymore. I’ll keep this data centric. When I’m upset, like god knows what a crazy woman will do. Say about me what you will – I don’t care. My baby is another matter all together.
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The chart shows the number of words for the two parties over the time period. If the two parties sent the same amount of words, the lines would be on top of each other. Obviously they are not.
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As an analyst, you’re going to be looking for big variances. Danger. Danger.
As someone who is aware of the psychological idiosyncrasies, I would also be concerned about with bid spikes in communications from the victim. This means something bad has happened.
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Now I am showing you this chart in the annual view, but for discussions sake, I have pulled out the same data by the day. Note that almost any BI program processing this information would be able to provide you with both.
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This may be significantly more useful for folks and authority figures. RISK ROSK RISK. I would also be very interented to know what happened here. Something bad I would guess. And I would be able to pull that out easily from the blame section which we will go over shortly.
Categorization of data
So to do this Data analysis I had to initially pull out all 7 categories within the trifecta so that's blame demesne threat and all of the categories in between them. With an appropriate AI product in place this will not be necessary. An AI product will pull out each individual incident and then split them off for you. Because I did this manually, I needed to go through and pick out each individual category. So that looked like this.
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Final metrics in this category looked like this. Prior to the split there was 3696 incidences identified.
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If you go into that section of the report, there is also examples of all of the sections of the trifecta. Some of them are entertaining. So enjoy.
Final metrics
Following the split the metrics look a little different. Reminder in the final split, all of the cross-categorized data is splir ino its categories. Meaning that a blame/demean is counted as one count of blame and one count of demean.
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A Blame/demean/threat is counted as one blame, one demean, one threat, etc.
Etc.
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Final metrics includes 1303 incidences of abuse identified from myself and 3764 Incidence of abuse identified from my previous partner.
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This includes 1800 demeaning comments, 2373 incidences of blam, and 867 threats. This case is dominant in blame, which makes up for
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47% of the total.
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You can see the division of the trifecta in this pie chart.
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Final Report & Metrics
Blame
So were kicking off the data series with Blaming, Blame is not an effective independent indicator of abuse.
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As mentioned in one of my previous videos – you cannot prove validity of the blame without external information (talking to people). There could be a very justified reason for the blame to be blamed. If someone is being the most annoying person on purpose obviously there is blames that are justified.
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We are aiming for a system wherein we don’t have to talk to people. While this may sound inhumane, I assure you it is the more humane way, As soon as human interaction comes into the game the data is skewed. No people = clean data. We have to assume there is going to be lies in here, and also, the parties are participating in activities wherein the blame is warranted.
So, not a good independent indicator, but still very valuable information. Heres the data from my report, this chart shows the incidences for each of the parties over the time period.
The final dataset included 2373 Blame includences, 1627 of these incidences, or 69% was from my partener – and 747, or 31 % of the incidences were from me. This is a ratio of 2.18 blames to 1.
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Know your Role, a note to authorities.
Before we go into the next section – just a note on war of the roses. There are a lot of moves th at are made within these cases There is a big difference in between the people who make moves for their safety, and those who make moves to play games. The moves themselves may look similar, but there are nuances with the intention that should be pretty clear. The fact that there is no function by which to examine these behaviours, and that the authorities are allowed to make assessment and assumptions is Honestly archacic and unacceptable on so many levels.
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Some of what I experienced was so disheartening. Cops giving legal advice, Your job is not to give legal advice. Or tell someone what will or wont work in court. Good god I wouldn’t trust some of you with a cat overnight. Know your role. Your job is to determine the one who is wrong and honestly your failing at that. Try and get better. If you have empathized with someone malicious. Maybe don’t trust your instincts. Again – this is why data is important. It will tell us which insiencts we should trust. I imagine many people are going to relaize they have been wrong.
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If you let the douce canoes create bands of douce canoes and take down all the beautifyul women you end up with a land no one wants to live in. I wonder what a hellscape like that would look like.
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I am here because I refuse to sit back and watch everyone start peddling backwards. Values are obviously being tested but that doesn’t mean we fucking crumble. Smarter monsters just need more effective lines.
The Blame-Cidences
So, as I mentioned – I did a second level analysis on this data and this and the blame section the analysis is subject specific. So I went through and gave each blamecident a label. Because then the category listing was far far too long I grouped it again which gave me the listing provided in the report here. I did this manually….. urgh….. it took a lot of time. Again, hopefully no one ever has to do this manually again.
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This analysis will not be perfect without an engine behind it. This will not be perfect because humans are imperfect. Individuation may be seen as flaws but truly they are what makes humans beautiful. All of your pieces, even neurologically make up this jagged key looking thing that meets a hole it should fit. If we are all the same, if we are all perfect. I think that starts to look like building blocks. Flat sides against flat sides. Flaws are a crucial part of the story.
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The category for “incidences” is the category where I put all of the items wherein the blame was related to an actual event in time. It is within here that the items on the timeline chart were pulled from. These were the top blame items so I pulled out the # of blames, there in here as well.
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I have the incidents cute names, obviously a computer will not do that but there will be consistent categorizations that will show face quite quickly when were dealing with more than one dataset.
So the first one, the hackcident. I accused my ex of hacking into my accounts because I returned from vacation and all of our texts from my IG and facebook were gone. Just gone. Everything. Felt like I was raped. Anyways – I blamed him 20 time, and he blamed me for that too.
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Next on the list was locking shared assets. I was accusing him of taking everything he wanted from the house, putting it in one of the seacans we had on the property while I was at the office one day, then parking his Kubota in front of it.
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I never got access to it. I never had any choices in what I kept from my marriage. He took what he wanted and left me to clean up the mess with no help. I blamed him for that 11 times.
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In October I rented the trailer on the property to a kid who was stsating school in the area and his mom was desperate. I had just sold my wedding rings for gas money. My ex was letting me drown in 120K of debt from a house build while telling everyone I was selling the rings for drugs and vodka.
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This move save my life. Having someone else on the property during that time saved my life, I had already begged my family who were basically ignoring me. Y’all can make your peace with god, but I hope you all take a moment for all of the women who were abandoned while they were begging for help. And to all the people on the abandonment team, I want you to really sit back and think – was I raised by an abuser…….. Y’all are empathising with the fuckedup cause you were raised by it.
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He blamed me for me renting our trailer 70 time. 70. Now when were sitting around the table talking in thousands, that may not seem like a lot – but I will tell you at the time I was insane. If you read the text I was 100% in the defensive. Saying I was sorry – that he was desperate. Please don’t get angry. He was completely irrational during this time – the question is can the data prove this and yes it can – we just need a measure for severity of the event.
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The last one is the blackura. I had a black acura MDX that I called the blackura. The lease was in his name because I was carrying all the debt from the house. I didn’t want to take on more financing while we were in the middle of the build but he was pressuing me cause I had an older model and resales were doing really well. Then he started to say “oh, well now you cant get your daughter to school”, then there was the taunting trying to get me in a car with him, like “oh, I’ll take you for groceries now…”. I was terrified. Ive never been so scared in my life. I didn’t have one human being to turn to. He took everyone.
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I tried to get a restraining order. I was told I eared too much money and couldn’t get legal help. The fact that people have been allowed to do this to each other. Like what the fuck. People are able to use your capability to leave as a way to torture you. A way to make people loose their kids. People watch this.
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A whole industry of people have watched this and done nothing. Nothing. An entire industry of people watch these injustices happen. To children. And do nothing. I have no more patience, you have no idea what you have awoken.
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Anyways – he took my car. I blamed him for this XX time. And heres the kicker – he blamed me for him taking my car XX times. Cause it was my fault I had all the ctedit and our housing project was in trouble. Right? Abusers blame you for the things they do – and this will also show in data. The ping pong ball will show in the data.
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So – going forward, 2 things to look for here in incidencts that are subjective but of interest. 1st thing is going to looking at incidents wherein there is a irrational level of blames for the severity of the incident. 70 blames for renting a trailer? That person is not in their right mind.
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Also blaming other people for items that are obviously their fault, this will also show in data here.
These are sunjective items, which means there is a component, it wouldn’t take the strength of masses. But there is a component of subjectivity.
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Final Report & Metrics
Demean
Demeaning Comments.
As mentioned, these are the ones that attack your sense of self. I posted a video on the concept, so if you have not watched it, its posted on the website.
This is a big beast though, everything insulting.
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I had no idea how much I had lost my sense of self going through this madness until I started to get it back. That’s the insidiousness of the constant batter to your self esteem. You don’t even know how far your broken until you get to the healing stage, can look back at the disaster that is behind you, and start to understand that the person who was supposed to lift you up was slowly and maliciously sneaking you under their feet so that they got higher.
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You start to understand that the person that you became to take the constant abuse was like a shell of a person, specifically shallow to allow all the hate to travel through you. Like a shadow of yourself.
As I go into the second level of analysis you will understand that there is buckets for straight up vicious shit, like you’re a fucking cunt (of whatever), and then there is categories for insinuated abuse. I would struggle to say one is worse than the other. The maliciousness of this is the impact not the weapon.
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I didn’t even have the confidence to move forward in my life because I was always in an environment where my view of myself was maladaped. And it was maladapted for me. Its like I was hidden.
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Not only am I beautiful and kind but I’m also brilliant. Because I have been hidden under a blamket of self esteem issues for my entire life I haven’t been able to use that the way that I should have been.
We have a lot of beautiful strong divine feminines who just need a little lifting.
As I pull open the charts you will notice that they look very similar in terms of trendline, that’s because as you go through the actual data. The emails and the texts – the trifecta is completely immersive. Its like blame, demean, threat, demean, blame. I am going to avoid going into the actual data again, I’d like to avoid real time examples where possible. I have a life that this is connected to. But the charts will look the same because of that.
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So there was 1800 demeaning comments identified within the dataset. This is 1363 comments from my partner, or 76% of the total, and 437 comments from me, which is 24% of the total. This is a ratio of 3.12 : 1
In the second level analysis of the data, the data is further brokend down into the sub categories. As a reminder, these are it. so direct insults, insinuated traits, malice, and forcing gratitude.
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This dataset was by far dominant in insinuated traits, making up for 48% of the total.
This was followed by malice at 23%
Direct Insults at 19%
And finally forcing gratitude at 9%.
So that’s demeaning comments.
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Final Report & Metrics
Threat
Threats, this is by far the most malicious category.
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Its also the easiest to pick out, identify, and justify as abusive. As a reminder, a threat is responsibility for something negative that may occur in the future. And as I mentioned In the structural video, this can look very innocent at times. If you haven’t watched the videos they are all linked on the website.
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I wouldn’t do that or you know whats gonna happen….
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Like the demeaning section, its less about the action itself and more about the impact it has on the psychological health of the victim. If you have been living in a state of psychological terror The threat of “you know whats gonna happen…” becomes terrifying. Another fight is terrifying. The powerlessness you feel. It’s a cycle of hopesness that takes you doen a little bit more with every round.
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Oh god, the hopelessness and then you kid gets hurt. The things, I will do, to make sure this does not happen anymore.
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I may speak with a soft tone, but I will day they have never met a beast like me. There is no beast like me.
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Yes, you can be cute and vicious.
This is the chart for threats. I know, looks pretty similar. That’s the point, this is gonna get really boring. Clear. Truth. I know, feels weird right,
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This category was by far the smallest within this dataset. There was 857 incidences identified, this included 738 from my partner (this is 86% of the total) and 119 from me (which is 14%)
This is a ratio of 6.2 : 1
Second level analysis, like the blame section, was subject specific.
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What was being threatened. Again, the listing was too long, the categories are two levels deep. What you see in the report, this table here is the second level which has been summarized so that its consumable in this report.
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Threats were varied. Triangulation took a big chunk at 23% and let me tell you I can speak to this, it’s the worst. I got really funny though.
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This is followed by insinuated threats at 22%
OK. So those three numbers. Those three ratios.
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This is it. this is the whole system. These are my numbers. Honestly it’s the easiest bloody thing and I think its meant to be that way. Everyone, no matter their educational level, can understand and apply this. Its easy. I’m going to go through the vehicle data next.
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Three more videos. Just three more videos. It’s the last three videos, freedom is coming.
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So were here then we get another case. Then we get another case, then we get another case. Look at that, now we have a range. Now we have a median. Now we have a line. Ooh, isn’t that nice.
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Final Report and Metrics
Harassment & Bombing
Harassment & Bombing.
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A note on the vehicles before I start. Some of these are very clear as to how they can be tracked in physical data. Harassment, for example, is very clear, itsa just simply a count. You can make sure the data here is comprehensive. When it comes to things like gaslighting, this is a little more difficult to confirm without environmental information.
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The beauty of the trifecta is that it is comprehensive. The services are subclassifications of the blame/demean/threat data and is not needed to move the trifecta forward. This is simply information about these concepts that can be built on in the future,
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Ok, so as I mentioned in the earlier harassment video that for the purposes of this report we are defining harassment as the amount of communications.
This can be measured by looking at the number of words, or it can be measured by the amount of trifecta incidences
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I have pulled this data out in this chart here, this is the number of incidences in dots, and the number of words in the lines. There are subtle nuances in either dataset but generally the dots and the lines should generally correlate.
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There actually may also be a story between the two datasets. When the dots and the lines are variant it means that someone is sending more abuse per word, which may actually be a great indicator of escalation – something to explore later.
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If someone’s interactions in a high conflict case are sitting at, say, 1.6 : 1. Then one evening – these escalate to 10 : 1, then they go up to 300 : 1. That’s when they need help. That’s when there is intervention.
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Final Report and Metrics
Projection & Gaslighting
Reminder that this is basically kind of the same concepts just from different view points of the situation
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Projection is an action that someone takes. Projection is someone superimposing their made up reality onto the world.
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Gaslighting is the impact that projection has on the victim when the projection is negative.
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Again – Bob projected his view of the situation, Mary was gaslight by Bobs Projection
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A projection is basically a alternate reality, which is a lie. An untruth. When hunting for these in data - Some of these can be picked out of straight data but half of the story is missing if the reality is not documented in the same data (thus the lie cannot be identified).
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So conceptually, it would be hard to imagine a system by which information on Gaslighting can be considered comprehensive. So not the full picture, but still useful.
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Looking at this data, you can see that there is a correlation between the timeline (which is populated by the blame section). So gaslighting and blame is highly correlated, which makes sense. The abuser does something bad, and then blames you for it (which is gaslighting). You can also pull this out in data.
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So I posted this video and I got a couple different reposes. First was the boys. I got quite a few DMs, I also got a few messages from some jealous women. Surprise surprise.
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So I have some messages for both of you.
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Dick Picks
First to my dick pic boys. I do not want to see your penis. That is projection. You are assuming I want to see your penis because you want to see your penis. You are projecting your view onto me and making an assumption.
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YOU want to see your penis. So lets take a moment and think about this.
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Jealous women.
The fact that you care about my face more then what is coming out of my mouth is the whole problem. You ugly ass fake eyelashes are not going to cover for the fact that you have absolutely no values. I bet you look uglier in person don’t cha. Maybe stay in your lane which is spending half of your time layering on the 12 layers of makeup you require to fir your own ridiculous standard. I do not play in your sandpit. I’m not using filters. And my looks are not even close to the best thing about me.
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As humanity crumbles, maybe take a moment to look in the mirror.
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Final Report and Metrics
Coercive Control & Triangulation
OMG it’s the last video in the quantifying abuse series. I don’t have many people to pat me on the back right now. Society is very broken. But I will say I’m proud of myself. I almost didn’t make it many times. I glad I did.
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When I started I didn’t even know why, I just had this drive. This unstoppable drive. I know why now we have to move faster.
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OK, so the final vehicle were going to review in this video series is coercive control and triangulation.
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As a reminder, I have suggested a new succinct definition for coercive control, and this is:
Purposefully putting someone into a position to make a decision they would not otherwise make.
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I made the connection in between this and duress in the last video because they are basically the same things without the contract signature.
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Like the other vehicles, analytical notes are correlations between the metric and the timeline. Any minor nuances are better to be reviewed in bulk with other cases. Which is hopefully where we go next in the data hub.
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I will say this on coercive control and triangulation. As someone who doesn’t operate in a controlling manner, I found reviewing this data very valuable. I wasn’t in a mental place to review all of the suggestions made while I was in the pit, but seeing it after was extremely revealing. Many of these items are “sold” to you like its your benefit, or is gaslit.
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Oh, I just took your cart cause I assumed you wouldn’t want to go.
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Sorry, all your revealing Lulu gear got destroyed.
So next steps is the investor package – where I get to show you the monster to come. As I said the report is the fix, I’m now gonna tell you what the problem is. And to do that I’m going to have to talk to people and honestly its my biggest downfall. I’m good with basically everything but people. We all have gaps to work on.
Controlling people don’t like me. On sight. And I know why. I’m the antisisis. Completely and utterly uncontrollable. I make controlling people nervous on sight.
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Controlling people like to control people. They are constantly assessing where they can adjust you,
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They're usually very good at tracking. They track peoples habits.
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Funny habits, I don’t have many pf those. Then I think, how convenient. Shitty I cant keep a habit, but that also means all the people trying to track me have a really hard time.
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I also don’t need a fucking book for my morality. Its innate.
I know we got a we got a whole wave of the morally chaotic. Direct polar to what is currently running the show.
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God made its own army.